[kordless]

The title is a blaming statement, which are usually caused by someone in cognitive dissonance. You can think of cognitive dissonance as an argument between various agents in someone's brain. Arguing with yourself isn't fun. Occasionally bits of the brain attempt to resolve the argument by looping in other people's feelings. The fastest way to do this is for someone to accuse another of something they themselves feel partially guilty about. which then (hopefully) elicits a strong emotional response.

There's ALWAYS a reason someone make blaming statements. The trick is figuring out exactly why they are doing it.

[collyw]

Do you have anywhere that I could read up more on this? It sounds interesting.

[kordless]

Totally. You can start with non-violent communications: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication, and then check out the HBR slick they just put out on Emotional Intellegence. Basically you listen to people, repeat what they said, repeat how they felt about it (only if they actually told you verbally or non-verbally), and tell them you hear them.

Notice the vote down I got. Heaven forbid anyone bring up emotions here. <--- blaming statement.

[zo1]

Examples: Most online discussions involving race, religion, politics, morality.

Info: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance