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While #YesAllWomen was eye opening in many ways, I don't think your snark was constructive.

I think there's a problem with the sancrosanct way #YesAllWomen is being treated. In my casual browsing, I quickly found someone complaining that she feels guilty for 'friendzoning' a guy and cursing society for that. Guess what, I and many other guys have had that feeling with respect to a woman at some point.

If you can't see why someone might get defensive after reading these tweets (as they were urged to do), I'm not sure that reality is appropriate for you.

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Are you trying to say that you have felt threatened, unsafe or like you were going to be alienated because you had to friendzone a female? Because I can't say that I have. And I honestly have a hard time believing that you have either.

I wasn't being snarky, but you appear to take this subject much more lightly than I do. That's fine. I was being serious about what I said. The commenter above mine was either or troll or someone who actually thinks that men have it harder because of the women's rights movement. If it's the latter, he needs to know that it's not an okay attitude to have in our society.

I'm not a hyper-affluent white male, so unfortunately I'm not just confirming his hypothesis.

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> Are you trying to say that you have felt threatened, unsafe or like you were going to be alienated because you had to friendzone a female? Because I can't say that I have. And I honestly have a hard time believing that you have either.

Women tend to feel unsafe in situations in which they are statistically not unsafe, at least when compared to men. In fact, men are overwhelmingly more likely to fall victim to violent crime, including violent crime from strangers.

However, because of sycophants like you, a woman must merely say "I felt so unsafe and threatened when the man in the mall wouldn't take the hint that I wasn't interested in talking to him!" for her to suddenly become an example of western injustice against women.

> If it's the latter, he needs to know that it's not an okay attitude to have in our society.

It's not okay to even believe men have it worse (which is itself a subjective measure)?

A thought exercise for our friendly, reasonable, fact-driven hangman:

If far more men than women were graduating from college; if men universally received far lighter prison sentences than women for the same crimes; if young men were earning more than young women; if women had zero reproductive rights beyond "don't have sex with a fertile man"; if women were overwhelmingly more likely to fall victim to violent crime, including (but not limited to) murder; then would you not make a public, loud, brave scene about how unfair life is for women?

[the_hangman]

I'm still not 100% sure I'm not just feeding a troll, but here goes.

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> Women tend to feel unsafe in situations in which they are statistically not unsafe, at least when compared to men. In fact, men are overwhelmingly more likely to fall victim to violent crime, including violent crime from strangers.

I googled "statistics women safety" and wasn't able to find anything that pointed to any sort of conclusive study as to where or when a woman should feel unsafe. All I found was page after page of statistics on sexual assaults, rapes, and domestic violence that all seemed to paint the opposite picture of these mysterious statistics that you have been bringing up. For example:

* 12.4% of women had been sexually abused before the age of 15, compared with 4.5% of men, between 1996 and 2005. (Australia) [1]

* Of men who reported that they had experienced physical violence in the 12 months before the survey, 73.7% said that the perpetrator was a male (Australia) [1]

* One in 6 women and 1 in 33 men have experienced an attempted or completed rape (USA) [2]

* 1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men have been stalked in their lifetime (USA) [2]

* 81% of women stalked by a current or former intimate partner are also physically assaulted by that partner; 31% are also sexually assaulted by that partner (USA) [2]

I could go on, and on, and on. I wasn't able to find any of these mystery statistics that you've been citing to prove your points, though. They all seem to show that it's probably a decent idea for women to listen to their intuition about a guy they find creepy, even if they are not statistically unsafe.

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> If far more men than women were graduating from college; if men universally received far lighter prison sentences than women for the same crimes; if young men were earning more than young women; if women had zero reproductive rights beyond "don't have sex with a fertile man"; if women were overwhelmingly more likely to fall victim to violent crime, including (but not limited to) murder; then would you not make a public, loud, brave scene about how unfair life is for women?

This obsession with a perceived unfairness between the genders is starting to get creepy. What man has zero reproductive rights? If you don't want to have a kid and aren't sure if she's on birth control, use a condom for fuck's sake. It's not rocket science.

The study that showed young women earn more than men also showed that women in the same industry with the same degree level earned less than male counterparts, and that their wages tended to stagnate or fall after having kids.[3] It is assumed in the study to be related to the fact that a significantly higher percentage of young women hold college degrees.[3] If it bothers you this much that women with degrees earn more than men without degrees, maybe western society isn't the best choice for you. There are plenty of countries where women aren't even allowed to go to college. I'm sure you could earn more there as an uneducated man than most women.

While it's true that a majority of murders are perpetrated against men, an even larger majority of murders are perpetrated by men! The FBI's latest data on murders in the US shows that 22% of murder victims are female, while only 7% of those that commit murder are female. It's clear from those numbers alone that a male murdering a female is at least twice as likely as a female murdering a female. Had enough yet? How about this: of the 594 cases of murder where a spouse killed their opposite gender-ed partner in 2012 in the US, 84% (496) of the time the victim was the wife, not the husband.[4]

None of your complaints regarding the hardships of males due to females have ANY MERIT IN REALITY. If you're going to pontificate about facts and statistics, at least cite the facts and statistics that you're claiming to be the basis of your opinion. You sound like you are spiteful towards women in general and grasping for reasons to justify your malice.

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[1]: http://www.domesticviolence.com.au/pages/domestic-violence-s...

[2]: http://www.ncadv.org/files/DomesticViolenceFactSheet(Nationa...

[3]: http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB1000142405274870442110...

[4]: http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/crime-in-the-u.s/2012/c...