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by einaros 4417 days ago
Mother's day or not, those who can make that call, should. My mother passed away one week ago. I really, really wish I could call her today.
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Be aware: You don't properly mourn the death of the first parent to die until the other one does as well.

My father died less than a year after my mother did, and it was far worse even though I was arguably closer to her.

I know this is not a particularly good time to be warning you about this but I wish somebody'd warned me and I probably won't get another reminder to do so. So, um, sorry, but I hope I'm right that it was worth saying.

I lost my mom when I was younger. I have started realizing the point you are making more as time has passed and try a bit harder to keep things happy for my dad. It was good to hear your advice.
You have my condolences. Losing a parent must be devastating. My grandmother passed away last weekend so I am making sure that my mother feels special today. The way my mother cared for her own mom in her final days taught me a lot about what it means to be a truly good person.
Heartfelt condolences. I lost my mother 5 years ago; my father 27 years ago. The worst pain is now with the firsts (first Mother's Day without her, first birthday without her, first child, etc) so please hang in there.
Sorry for your loss. I made the call two hours ago :-)

ps. I love when HN gets emotional.

Sorry for your loss. My mom passed away when I was 10, and I still miss her. Wish she was around to talk to!
Thank you. I'm very sorry to hear that your mother passed so early. Missing someone, even after many years, is a testimony to the strong bond you shared. The loving memory lives on.
My condolences. My mom passed away in September. I know it's really rough, but it does get better over time.
Sorry for all you must be going through. Hang in there.
So sorry to hear this. This is one of my greatest fears, yet I know it will happen to me one day. My heart-felt condolences...
I'm sorry for your loss.
Thank you, although I feel much more sorry for her loss, than I do for mine. Cancer stole her life at a time when everything was supposed to be getting better. A brutal reminder for everyone around her to make the most of their time. And to appreciate loved ones while they're there.
My sympathies. Take care.
My mom died a few years ago. It sucks. Try to find a proxy mom or aunt if possible. It sort of helps.
you have no idea how lucky you are.
Not entirely sure what you mean by that. But I realised some time ago how lucky, and extremely privileged, I was to grow up with the unconditional support my mother gave me.

And I wasn't the only one to get her support. She was a social worker who dealt with the very heaviest of drug users. She worked tirelessly to help them get a grip on their lives, and often spent her spare time following up on their troubles.

She, and others like her, contribute actual good to this world. I, with all of my inhibitive worries and hollow ambitions, admire them infinitely for that.

What a remarkable example of the principle of charity you've given us with this comment. You could have reacted to that as a troll, but instead responded with something beautiful. I admire that very much.

My condolences. A week is nothing after so deep a loss, so I hope you're ok.