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by lexcorvus 4450 days ago
I'm sure many supporters of Brendan Eich's ouster are completely sincere, but it's difficult to explain the intensity of their feelings on this issue. It can't be as simple as "civil rights" and "marriage equality"; for example, (first) cousin marriage is important to many groups—indeed, in Islam cousin marriage is not only allowed, it's often preferred [1]—but it is illegal in most states [2]. And yet, I rarely see advocates of "marriage equality" get all lathered up over this issue. Are advocates of "marriage equality" in favor of legalizing cousin marriage? If not, why not? If so, why have they not worked harder to achieve it?

I see no way to resolve this paradox from within the context of progressive ideology, but it's trivial to explain once you view it from the outside. As the example of cousin marriage shows, the behavior of Eich's purgers is not consistent with mere "civil rights" and "marriage equality", but it is consistent with signaling tribal membership, seizing political power, and smashing their enemies.

As it happens, right now gay marriage is an effective club with which progressives can beat conservatives. At some point, this may also be the case for cousin marriage—I can easily imagine opponents of cousin marriage someday being branded "Islamophobes", just as today opponents of gay marriage are branded "homophobes". But I predict that this will happen if, and only if, it serves progressive political ends.

[1]: http://wikiislam.net/wiki/Cousin_Marriage_in_Islam

[2]: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage_law_in_the_Unit...

2 comments

> I'm sure many supporters of Brendan Eich's ouster are completely sincere

What "ouster"?

> It can't be as simple as "civil rights" and "marriage equality"

Even ignoring the questionable use of "ouster", yes, it can.

> for example, (first) cousin marriage is important to many groups [...]. And yet, I rarely see advocates of "marriage equality" get all lathered up over this issue.

So, what? Opponents of interracial marriage bans in the 1950s-1960s didn't get "lathered up" over cousin marriage bans, or same sex marriage bans, either. That doesn't mean that opposition to interracial marriage bans wasn't all about civil rights and equality.

> Are advocates of "marriage equality" in favor of legalizing cousin marriage?

Some probably are, some probably are not. As with most political issues, position on this issue doesn't absolutely determine position on any other issue.

> If not, why not?

Conceptually, regulating new legal family relationships on the basis of existing family relationships is different than doing so based on some other non-family status, so there is no real reason why positions on these should be expected to correlate.

> If so, why have they not worked harder to achieve it?

This is the "why aren't advocates of 'X' spending equal effort on every other analogous issue" argument, which ignores that actually effecting change often requires serial focus, rather than parallel effort.

> I see no way to resolve this paradox from within the context of progressive ideology

And yet, as noted above, I see several that fit quite well in that framework. Maybe what you fail to see says more about what you want to see than about what actually is there?

Conceptually, regulating new legal family relationships on the basis of existing family relationships is different than doing so based on some other non-family status, so there is no real reason why positions on these should be expected to correlate.

This rationalization of anti–cousin marriage bigotry makes you sound like an Islamophobe who cares little about violating Muslims' religious liberties by denying them their basic civil rights. Be careful not to get purged.

Even if I don't agree with all of this, it's at least a good explanation of why I find "marriage equality" distastefully propagandistic. If people waving that banner truly wanted "marriage equality" they would be fighting for normalizing marriage laws across the whole nation (marriage age and other requirements like relatedness as you mentioned), polygamy, etc. If they wanted to extend the logistical benefits of marriage (tax breaks etc.) to more people, they could fight for marriage between people that were doing it purely for the legal benefits.

Just call it "fighting for same-sex marriage", because that's what it's mostly about. "Marriage equality" feels like trying to sway the listener by giving a deceptively broad impression of the aims of the movement.