[kzrdude]

well, we can all talk about what's a better way to move forward. I believe that just like the issue of "interracial" marriages, the issue of same sex marriage both share one thing: the march of normalization is strong. People get used to it, also those that didn't want to. For this reason I think the best way to go forward as a society is reconciliation, tolerance and not mobbing.

"Either you are with us or against us" is a harmful doctrine.

[bakhy]

using such argumentation one can dismiss any protest one does not like. a protest is a perfectly legitimate form of political action, and is the only proven effective method of achieving change in this type of thing.

[kzrdude]

I don't agree, because my argument applies only when: the battle is already won. Same-sex marriage is normal. I'm talking about how we should behave after the battle is won.

[bakhy]

ah, ok. i understand what you mean now.

i would not say that it is already won, though. only a minority of US states recognizes gay marriage, and over 70 countries (if i remember correctly) worldwide criminalize homosexuality. and even when it is won, it will still take time for the people affected by the discrimination to simply relax and transcend it all. i would certainly not expect, not even today, that a black person be all reconciliatory with someone supporting an interracial marriage ban... it just doesn't work that way.

and, no offense, but try to consider what it would like to be to walk in my shoes. it is very easy to give advice to other people about how they should handle such problems, but it can easily come across as condescending. all of us in the LGBT community think about and discuss these things A LOT. and what we won so far, we fought for it our way, in a way that we found to work.