[jd0]

To use a metaphor you might understand I think you're programming around the bug instead of debugging.

Maybe, shocking as it is, women are reacting to real injustices in these cases that you read about in "any article or blog post about sexism in tech". If your immediate reaction to someone being called out for sexism is to distance yourself from women, have you ever considered that perhaps your attitude is sexist? You're assuming in all scenarios that the man is right and being attacked unfairly, disregarding evidence.

[gametheoretic]

That's nice. I don't feel like you're talking to me; I feel like you're talking to a person in your head.