[enneff]

> What's inherently wrong with an unwanted advance?

I don't want to be hit on at work. It is totally inappropriate and unprofessional. And if I were a minority in my office I would find it very hard to deal with.

From the article, he did not say "Want to get a drink some time?"

> [He] asked himself over to “talk,” and then professed his love, and “hesitated” when asked to leave.

[not_paul_graham]

> I don't want to be hit on at work.

But she did get hit on at work and started dating a co-worker (I'm assuming the guy she's dating initiated contact). If that was acceptable by her, then this logic about it being "totally inappropriate and unprofessional" is moot.

I do not agree with what the co-worker did in terms of reverting commits and all that, but his initial behavior can be chalked up to all these romantic comedies where the protagonist professes his love for the cute girl and it all ends happily ever after.

All I'm saying is that you can't demonize his initial approach.

[omegaworks]

>If that was acceptable by her, then this logic about it being "totally inappropriate and unprofessional" is moot.

It's inappropriate for your other coworkers to hit on you if they know you are in a relationship, regardless of whether that relationship happens to be with a coworker. Where her and her partner actually hit on each other may not have been at work.

[stefan_kendall3]

It sounds more the issue that the guy in question has an extreme lack of social skills.

I've successfully done stuff with co-workers before, but it happened in undertones. I did not go to anyone's house to profess my love. That's creepy no matter who's doing it.