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Your family comes first. Let go of the idea that you can continue to put in extra time at work, do hobby projects, and learn new technologies. You will have to do those extra curriculars during the 8-9 hour work day. Home time is family time (for the most part, of course you should find a few hours a week just for yourself). Forget about programming when you get home. Babies and new moms need a lot of attention and help. That should be your #1 priority for the next year minimum. It gets easier after year 1.

There is more to life than work and programming. Don't sacrifice time with your new baby. It never comes back. You will have plenty of time to advance your career and reach career goals.