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I have been seeing this a bit on HN... To the OP and anyone else dealing with a situation similar: This is going to be the worst time of your life. God forbid you have to go through it multiple times. You can't "save" people. Their misfortune is not your fault. You support, as much as you fucking can, you pay bills, you sacrifice, you love, you care, you show up! But at the end of the day, try to feel the love and not the anger and depression. It won't "save" your loved ones, but you can save yourself from letting their sickness eat you as well. I feel so bad for this kid, real or not. I was just their in December and lost my second parent. I too share the burden of debt and stress and nightmares, all of which are immense. I hope she makes it, and if she does, give her the time with her son that she probably deserves. If she doesn't, you should first focus on just breathing, the rest of your future is dictated by letting your emotions go the course and not regretting supporting your loved one through the fight. It's kind of like being a boat with your loved one and it's sinking. Everyone is watching it sink. You scream and yell all you want, but everyone knows its going down. Soon you sink and it stills shocks you, even though you also knew it was going to happen. Don't try to breath underwater. |