Maybe it's just me, but expecting recruiters to research your sexual orientation seems a bit over the top. Why don't you just work with local recruiters.
It's as easy to figure out I have a boyfriend as it is to figure out what I look for in a company. Or what my preferred stack is. I'm not really subtle about it. But I'll give you that one; it's possible to get a good pitch for a state I wouldn't consider working in, assuming it has some other evidence that they know something about me other than "Matched my search results for 'writes Python sometimes'".
I don't work with local recruiters because _I'm not looking for a job_.
I don't work with local recruiters because _I'm not looking for a job_.