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by kubiiii 4506 days ago
If you have nothing to hide it's fine. Well it's not. Stalkers and bullies love to find informations wether it's shameful or not. It makes their task easier.
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This argument proves too much. Living your life normally, in general, helps stalkers and bullies. The only thing that doesn't "help" them (in one way) is making your own life more difficult for their sake... which "helps" them more directly, by making them feel acknowledged and dominant.

People should not have to compensate for the actions of broken people. Celebrities know how to be functional in this situation: share everything, and get restraining orders.

> "People should not have to compensate for the actions of broken people."

Right... I shouldn't have to lock my door, I shouldn't have to avoid dark alleys, I should be able to carry as much cash as I please... but I live in an unjust reality in which it is frequently prudent to take basic precautions.

I looked into getting a restraining order once, after a petty argument online (before I learned better and began using pseudonyms while discussing anything of interest) turned extremely sour. Turns out that since I was never in a sexual relationship with the other person, the state I was currently living in limited my options to "suck it up", or "get a CCW". The general concept of a restraining order is not universally recognized.

(Furthermore, restraining orders are not preventive, they only provide a form of retaliation after the fact. They won't stop somebody from hiding in a bush outside your front door, they'll just allow you to have the police slap them with a restraining order violation after you discover them in your bush. Appealing to restraining orders to protect you is like appealing to burglary laws to protect you. You still need to lock up your home...)

I know people in reality sometimes have to of course, which is why I am not for real name policies. But I do want the problems to be fixed properly if possible.