[yscale]

You are an ignorant, arrogant idiot, and a callous asshole.

BTW, we already knew you didn't have kids. We knew that both from your beliefs, and moreso from the the hurtful language you chose to use.

We all already knew you were childless. And single. And white. And male. And a programmer. And an asshole.

Now do the world a favor, and shut up. Forever.

[luckydude]

I was once a childless single white male programmer. Oh, and an asshole. Didn't realize it at the time but I wised up. Give him time and cut him a little slack, he's entitled to his opinion.

[yscale]

He's entitled to his (ignorant) opinions, but he's not entitled to be so pointlessly rude and cruel with his method of expressing it.

If this was a dinner party, I'd quietly ask him to excuse himself, and he'd never be invited again. His choice of language was pointlessly cruel and outrageous.

[luckydude]

I suspect he didn't view it as being rude, he viewed it as doing the right thing. He probably truly believes what he is saying, I used to think stuff sort of like that. My guess is he is somewhere between 23-32 years old, that was my stupid range :)

I guess the point is don't assume he's being an asshole, a real asshole would troll harder. I think he believes what he is saying. Yeah, it's rude but I'm not sure I'd be willing to write the guy off.

[gojomo]

If all conversations were limited to dinner-party politeness, we'd remain trapped in a state of childlike obliviousness about the real disagreements and difficulties of the world.

(My dinner party would welcome both paul and thaumasiotes, as people able to speak about a difficult topic calmly, with strong and contrasting perspectives based on real experience. In contrast, yscale would be asked to apologize or leave for content-free name-calling.)

[yscale]

Saying "cost of replacing the thing" about a baby, to a father, was not calm speech about a difficult topic.

It was pointlessly rude and provocative. It was an indefensible way to express his underlying opinion.

And if you were paying attention, you would've realized I emphasized his method of expressing the opinion far more than the opinion itself.

[acjohnson55]

I agree with your point of view, but I don't think you've phrased it productively, let alone respectfully. I know it's a touchy topic, but you'll be a better advocate if you avoid flying off the handle.

[Crake]

> And single. And white. And male. And a programmer.

Ok, asshole childless person is at least mildly related to the topic at hand, but the rest of these just seem like irrelevant ad hominems.

>Now do the world a favor, and shut up. Forever.

Why do I get the feeling your tumblr is full of equally venomous "go kill yourself"s?

[yscale]

I'd also be willing to bet that he programs in languages like Ocaml and Haskell.