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by __--__ 4506 days ago
When women use the word "creepy" what they mean is they are not attracted to them and any attention received by them is unwanted. As a guy, there are two ways to avoid being labeled as creepy:

1) be attractive 2) don't be unattractive

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or 3) develop some social empathy and learn to infer when someone is not attracted to you, and then act accordingly by not showing them any interest beyond a cordial one that meets the demands of your profession.
It's nice to see others consider that option too :)
the first two points still have to apply for a successful execution of the third point however.
Many years ago, we hired a gal in her mid-20s, slim, girl-next-door looks. It was a fairly casual office environment and she tended toward jeans and a spaghetti tank with an unbuttoned shirt over it. Not indecent, yet definitely skin, so on the borderline of acceptable. One day she was kind of upset because one of the few men who worked there had spent some time talking to her chest. He was in his early 50s, and generally annoying due to overwhelming halitosis and a tendency to talk way longer than necessary. Personally, I was on the fence about fault; I didn't like him at all, but also felt you put out bait, all fish will come, trout and mudsuckers alike. But he gave himself the creep label because he didn't keep his eyes on her face.