[mightybyte]

The choice shouldn't be an exclusive or. There are women out there who understand and appreciate that mentality. If the current girl is the type that does make it an exclusive or and you really think this particular girl is the one, then you'll have to make a tradeoff. But if staying with her would be a tradeoff, then in my opinion she's not the right girl. The right girl should like and love YOU--the YOU that you described above. In the general case, girls like that do exist, but in the special case of you, sometimes they're hard to find.