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I think your biggest mistake is thinking you have a choice: I can choose to be consumed by my business endeavors, or I can choose to fall in love with this girl. Neither is the case - you have little control over what consumes you. Presuming you allow yourself sufficient exposure to each, it will likely sort itself out without you needing (getting) to make a conscious choice.

I didn't put either first or second. I worked my tail off on my professional career and didn't end up meeting the right girl until fairly late on, but when I did I knew it and I didn't hesitate to marry her and keep my work in perspective. But had I met her ten years earlier I would have married her then too, and don't think I would have achieved anything less professionally.