[scdoshi]

"Assigning a label to myself like “hacker” or “developer” gives me the heebie-jeebies."

This in particular is not limited to women. As a guy from a non-CS background, I felt the same way for a long time. I'd say it's a function of experience rather than gender.

[Cthulhu_]

Any kind of label is imho somehting to be avoided. Hacker / developer / programmer, but also things like nerd/geek for that matter. Few of my colleagues here would be put into the latter categories if you met them on the street.