[_bfhp]

primitivesuave was literally recounting their own experience with young children; are they "sexist", or is describing reality just not to your liking? What does "acting like boys" even mean, may I ask? primitivesuave was taking about the toxic masculinity that involves macho superiority and violence, sorry if it upsets you that that's what masculinity involves.

primitivesuave wasn't talking about genitals, they were talking about gender, and you know this -- "acting like boys" has nothing to do with genitals -- but seem profoundly confused and angry about it.

[obstacle1]

primitivesuave's post is fraught with unconscious sexism. That is the problem.

First he generalizes that all adolescent males put on "pseudo-masculine efforts". No they don't. That's just as much a stereotype as "all girls suck at coding" or whatever stereotype-du-jour militant feminists are raging about this week.

Maybe a few of the students put on "displays" that he considers to be "pseudo-masculine efforts". That is a reflection of his own judgment of stereotypes though, not something innate to adolescent boys.

Then his proposed solution is to segregate males and females to facilitate learning.

Think about that.

Rather than discipline the kids who are acting out, teaching them to act in ways appropriate to civil society, he thinks that segregating boys and girls is the correct play. Even by his own logic, he's perpetuating the gender divide. Rather than stop the "pseudo-masculine efforts", he removes the women from the situation so that said "pseudo-masculine efforts" can continue. It's a really, really bizarre 'solution' when smoothing the gender divide is a stated goal.

It's akin to a company's HR getting complaints from female staff that the male executives are swearing too much or making sexual jokes or _insert_stereotypical_sexist_male_exec_behavior_here_. Rather than addressing the offending behavior, HR chooses to give females the "opportunity" to go have their own meetings down the hall on different days. No sane person thinks that will make strides towards gender equality. It will end in females being relegated to admin/secretary land while the executive boys club carries on.

[primitivesuave]

I'm not saying all males put on pseudo-masculine efforts, I'm saying it only takes one kid who makes an inappropriate joke like changing "public void" to "pubic void" when we're doing a code review. In such a situation, the boy will suppress a smile while he innocently exclaims he made a typo, while his friends all giggle innocuously. If you don't work with kids, you will not fully understand how the adolescent mind manifests itself in the classroom environment, and how difficult it is to suppress it. In the situation I just described, all we can do is mentally make a note to not call that same student up again. And in this situation and all related ones, we're dealing with a male student. Girls simply don't find stupidity that funny, and as an instructor I get pretty sick and tired of it.

I've spent the last 30 minutes defending myself on HN so I will conclude with this. We are not segregating our classes. We are not trying to shield female students from the realities of the world. We are simply making a business decision to offer an alternative environment for our female students who would otherwise have to deal with awkward situations like the one I just described. The all-girls classes are ridiculously chill and my instructors leap at the opportunity to teach them, because girls in middle and high school are on average more attentive and respectful than their male counterparts. You can tear apart my real-world observation all you want, but that is the simple reality of it and once you open your mind beyond some idealistic vision of what education should be, you'll understand that my reasoning is not just "unconscious sexism".

[dsuth]

Thanks for your posts, primitivesuave. I have to say I was surprised and extremely disappointed with the ridiculously defensive (of mostly strawman arguments) and needlessly accusatory posts in response to yours.

Needless to say this is an issue which constantly generates weird hate from certain aspects of geek culture, but I'm glad you're taking actual steps to improve the situation.

[_bfhp]

It's upsetting that these men, who seem uncomfortable at the prospect of someone describing reality, have bullied you into silence. Thank you for your anecdotes and viewpoint, your experience is valuable and contribution appreciated.

[shangxiao]

You may well be justified in doing what you do, I'm not arguing for or against it, but comments like the ones you make contribute to the whole popular "women are better than men" trend that we are experiencing.

[theorique]

I'm saying it only takes one kid who makes an inappropriate joke like changing "public void" to "pubic void" when we're doing a code review. In such a situation, the boy will suppress a smile while he innocently exclaims he made a typo, while his friends all giggle innocuously

This is an expression of "masculinity", pseudo- or otherwise?

Seems more like a silly juvenile joke that some kids (or adults) of both sexes might enjoy, and some might roll their eyes.

[obstacle1]

I thought this too. There is nothing inherently masculine about pubic hair, or jokes about said hair.

[theorique]

I mean, if you made me guess the sex of the person involved, I would certainly suspect it was a boy. Mischief of this kind tends to be more popular among boys. But a joke like this isn't intrinsically sexist, or anti-girl, or silencing of female voices

(Obviously, it's good if genuine sexism is halted in coed classrooms so that both boys and girls can learn.)

[rimantas]

  > Girls simply don't find stupidity that funny

This is gold. Almost as "girls cannot code".

[_bfhp]

What do you mean by that? OP was describing what they saw in real life.

[rimantas]

That description is exactly what makes me doubt how real his real life is.

[_bfhp]

"ostracized by pseudo-masculine efforts undertaken by adolescent males" - I don't see the word "all" in there

"militant feminists"? Really?

Masculinity is a socially constructed, we can identify [1] masculinity as a phenomenon, that's what the field of sociology is for.

I do agree that segregation is not a solution, but you're assuming bad faith on primitivesuave's part, who apparently was is trying to give kids the best environment to learn in. One has to wonder why you do this.

[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3exzMPT4nGI

[obstacle1]

I'm not assuming bad faith. I stated explicitly that I think his sexism is completely unconscious, i.e. he doesn't recognize it as such.

So go ahead and wonder if you want. Alternatively you could just read what I actually said.

[theorique]

primitivesuave wasn't talking about genitals, they were talking about gender

No difference. Genitals are gender - they define the sex or gender of a person.

(And transsexual / transgendered persons feel like they have they 'wrong' genitals compared to what their brain feels like - the brain of a woman and the body of a man, or vice versa)

It's all connected.