[argonaut]

You're right that I haven't personally been in that predicament.

But you haven't seen, as I've seen (as an employee), the huge value of YC and the meetings I've had with YC founders who had families (including one with a young child).

You haven't explained why what you said is not asking for a free lunch. Why is it that there aren't/shouldn't be tradeoffs? Either you move to YC or you don't do YC. Tradeoffs ensue. You yourself are arguing that the tradeoffs aren't worth it. Okay, they aren't worth it for you. The tradeoffs just don't make sense for your personal tolerance level.

Having children involves tradeoffs at all levels of your life. Tradeoffs in working hours. Tradeoffs in social activity. Tradeoffs in mobility. You accept those tradeoffs, for a certain time period, when you decide to start a family. The fact is those tradeoffs exist. And we don't live in an idealized world with no tradeoffs.

[cookiecaper]

I feel I've explained why it's not a free lunch throughout this thread. I didn't claim that YC had to change their program. I just suggested that it is not helpful for founders with family obligations, and that we're missing something in the startup community by neglecting this group of entrepreneurs. What does that have to do with a free lunch?

I understand there are tradeoffs, and I acknowledged this. I do not accept the popular brogrammer philosophy that rootless 20-somethings are the only people worth investing in because they are the most easy to exploit and/or manipulate. I don't think that makes them worth investing in, but I accept that most investors do. I stated my reasons throughout this thread -- I think founders with families are more likely to have true maturity, seriousness, and realism, and to have superior mental health overall. I think these attributes are beneficial to investors and that they'd have an interest in investing in familied founders for this reason, even if it costs more money to invest a company led by that type of person. You and I are free to disagree, and it still doesn't have anything to do with a free lunch, and it doesn't have anything to do with tradeoffs. It's just two people disagreeing.

I don't really get what you want here.

[argonaut]

I don't think YC or the startup community is neglecting that group of entrepreneurs. That's my point. The fact is that when you have a family there are tradeoffs you accept. One of which is less flexibility to take on riskier and less stable career paths.

It also pains me when you keep repeating the "investors only invest in 20-somethings who are easy to manipulate" line which is an overly cynical line that is usually repeated by a vocal subset of HN/the media in context with YC, precisely because YC ensures that you aren't manipulated, and also because it is simply not true. Older entrepreneurs have advantages. Younger entrepreneurs also have advantages.

I don't get what you want here either. I think you're wrong. That's it.