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by Scienz 4540 days ago
This is highly anecdotal, but when I was younger (from ~5-15 years ago), I noticed I was far more likely to have people start fights* with me when I was in a good mood and enjoying myself. Yet this never seemed to happen when I walked around with a bit of an angry look in my eye, like I had been having a bad day and was just waiting for someone to start something. I even informally experimented with it, sometimes approaching people in a cheerful, happy way, and other times approaching them like I was in a really bad mood. Men seemed to treat me much better when I was faux-pissed, and much worse when I was in a good mood. The authors didn't experiment with this (that I could tell), but I'd hypothesize that males have the same reaction towards happy expressions in other males - they don't like them and it initiates aggressive tendencies.

*You might ask why I was getting into fights in the first place, and all I can say is that high school and college are rough and most of the population doesn't seem to be as sophisticated as the typical HN reader.

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This always puzzled me.. when I have a great day, and walk around with a puffed chest smiling at people, women positively seem to ignore me. When have a bad day, or didn't wash my hair or something, it's the opposite, and I get eyed when I don't really want it. Once I walked around sulking, more or less staring at the ground, and a random young woman told me I was "very beautiful". I said thanks, but thought "WTF?! I look like shit."

Maybe people like it when they feel like they have to offer something to a person.

Disliking happy dudes seems natural enough. Imagine the inner monologue: "Oh ho ho, what are you so happy about? You smug bastard... projecting your mirth onto my group and me isn't going to work, see?" A grumpy man presents much less threat of trying to dominate the conversation with nonsense.