[lenazegher]

> If someone is saying that men can't take care of children. He or She is not a feminist.

I find it extremely difficult to talk about feminism because it means different things to different people. More than once I have heard statements about feminism from women who self-identify as feminist that contradict one another.

How can I answer the question "are you a feminist?" when the term may mean something very different to the questioner than to myself? Indeed, it may mean something to them that I find incorrect or immoral.

[rmc]

Even amoung hard-core feminists (we're talking people who's job is to work in university's as women's studies professors and write books on this stuff), there can be a lot of disagreement.

Biggest example is trans people. Some old-skool femininsts are very trans-phobic.