| you are making this harder then it is. do you live together? and is this really a conversation about marriage and babies and you just aren't reading between the lines? #1 follow your dreams. don't compromise that because it compromises yourself and that will never make you happy. #2 drop the french lessons and take your girlfriend to france instead. plan a vacation with her, it gives you both something to look forward too. #3 cut back on the day job and focus on the startup. what are you waiting for exactly? #4 take your GF out on at least one planned date a week. it gives you something both to look forward too and should be fun. Every 10 days or so have a surprise date. you figure it out, cheesy, silly, serious whatever. make sure she is free by suggesting dinner or lunch or whatever and do something unexpected. also, have a backup plan. make sure you turn off your cellphone when you are with her!!!!! I have a hunch your girlfriend is thinking, "so this is what life with you will be like?" and she doesn't like it. do you? you're here one time. your not supposed to make a ton of money necessarily. money is a useful tool, not an end in itself. do the startup because you think it's cool and fun and will do some good and maybe make some money. but if you are only doing it for the money you and your relationships are doomed to fail. I have to wonder how exciting your startup is if you are taking french lessons. I also wonder how interesting your girlfriend is that you would rather take french then have lunch in a bistro and practice your french on her every Saturday. the real thing i'm trying to tell you here is make an effort at having more fun. with your girlfriend, with your startup. and if you are not doing the date thing, you will be surprised by how helpful that will be. |