| I fit into that description. 30. Lot's of problems related to money and discipline. No helicopter parents through. What I realize quite often when I'm talking to friends and what I hear very often when I talk to my parents is a lack of deep social connections. If you have a social circle you really like and you can count on it's far easier to organize yourself and get your stuff done. Because you learn that stuff together in your circle. You just grow faster in a group of like-minded people than fighting all the bullshit alone. Finding this social circle is pretty hard for me. If this social circle is lacking or you just does not care about you if you don't fit their worldview you are on your own. Now you are scared and desperate to to fit somewhere in. Everyone is fighting their fight alone. It's more often than not a piss-match about status and money and importance than a real friendship. The partying is the illusion of this social circle that you want to keep in your life. If you drop this you'll have to face that you are totally alone and nobody gives a fuck about you. If I talk to my parents or grandparents I realize that they still meet with their colleagues from school or university or old jobs. If you don't function now nobody cares. Old friendships just vanish. This may be my problem. I'm not sure. Maybe I'm an loner or idiot. But there is a difference in comparison to earlier generations and most people I know or talk to feel pretty alone very often. |