[ledge]

I'm not sure what to glean from your comment. Do you already have a family? If not, you should consider not having one in the first place. Your would-be wife and children will be happier with someone who supports AND spends time with them.

[judk]

That's obnoxiously presumptuous to start, and disregards many people's community oriented value system to finish.

Not every child is a spoiled brat who needs an umbilical cord pumping money and is only happy when partying.