| I don't believe that to be the case. Our temperaments are quite hard-wired in our brains. IMO a better approach is to: - honestly learn about oneself, including the sides one or others might deem negative - accept oneself as such - learn to balance things in life so that one's personality fits best amongst them This way for example an intravert person can push their "outgoing side" a bit when it's needed, charging their batteries while that's not necessary, and make most of their lives doing something where solitary is a benefit. When the everyday experience is positive, the personality tends to shift towards positive. But that is not because of telling oneself "I can do it, I can do it" but because of the daily experience simply indicates success. Another example might be a person who wants to start a business. While one might benefit by "just doing it" and smashing obstacles one by one, another one might benefit most by making a careful study before doing the "move". Neither of these persons probably don't perform optimally (who of us does?), since the first one doesn't think enough before acting, and the other thinks too far. But for both of them, their approach is the most benefical, since in both cases their confidence to what they are doing rises the most, and on a realistic basis. |
Yeah, but the wiring can be changed. I used to be introverted; now I'm quite extroverted. I slowly changed.