[vannevar]

. We probably would not think it was inconsistent for a man whose female friend was attacked at a conference to remark that he felt comfortable in the tech community.

Well no, because men are rarely raped at conferences. But if men were savagely beaten in the stairwells as often as women are harassed at conferences, then we probably would find that inconsistent, even if it happened to a friend and not him.

Or perhaps she was feeling superior, not laughing it off.

Maybe so. Why then doesn't she take same attitude with women who criticize her? Why is she "comfortable" with sexism but feels compelled to complain that women can't empathize with her level of comfort?