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I've found that the key to success in this is context and setting.

Rather than going somewhere because there are women there, go somewhere you would like to go regardless and don't worry about approaching anyone, just relax and have a good time. Everything is dependent on mindset and setting. You, the same exact person might be anxious and uncomfortable in a loud club, and at the same time you might be the most confident guy in the room at a cocktail party after a business conference...or vice versa. So go to places that play to your strengths.

i.e coffee shops are a terrible place to meet people. There's absolutely zero sexual energy and everyone there is just trying to get some work done.

If you're in the bay area, email me(email in my profile) and I'll show you exactly what I mean.