| I think you may have come to the wrong forum but I'll try to give you a hand anyway. To answer your question about "Has anyone hacked seduction?", I'd suggest that the PUA authors you've read would suggest that they have, but it doesn't seem to be working for you. I suspect that much of that stuff is just tricks and games to try and get you laid, and the problem (I suspect) is that any smart-enough woman would (hopefully) see right thought it. From what you've written, I'd suggest that it isn't your looks, or that you are boring. I'd suggest that it is exactly as you suggest yourself, you're not confident. I think your therapist is wrong about becoming confident when you reach your goals (somebody please help me out here). Look around, see how many over-confident douche-bags have no goals, or haven't done anything meaningful, yet that doesn't stop them from being confident, does it? I think what you're therapist is trying to say isn't that you won't feel sexually confident until you get laid, but rather you need to be comfortable with who you are, and then you'll find the confidence in being you. It may be a subtle difference, but confidence doesn't come from ruling the world, it comes from accepting and appreciating who you are. I like to think of a Buddhist Monk. Do they seem confident to you? What do you think gives them that confidence? |