| I think the situation needs to be evaluated objectively. Are there any team members that are supportive of her? Does she enjoy the work in general, how many instances are there where she has been discredited/ignored etc? Is it escalating? Is this an issue that is inherent in culture of this specific workplace. Would moving to a new place of work solve this issue or do you feel that developing strategies in general would help her to deal with these kind of issues at whatever workplace she moves to. If she intends to work in this industry long term then for her own peace of mind she needs to define a way of working through these issues that sits well with her and doesn't allow these individual instances to build into long term unhappiness. Some things in the workplace are just general friction, adversity, we all have things to overcome associated with age, race, gender, background. We often only see our own struggles, or our eyes get opened to those faced by people close to us. Although some issues can start small and escalate into big conflicts with a specific person or management style. It's important that we identify these small instances, note them objectively (emotion removed) and then move on. In the past I've dealt with similar issues by switching to presenting project ideas solely in document form, or passing them on to supportive team members to deliver. If those ideas get adopted at a later stage, then that's great, what matters most for team progress is that the best ideas get implemented regardless of who they come from. If what matters to your wife is that her contribution is recognised then she needs to put strategies in place that will enable her to record her own contributions. It's unfortunate that she can't rely on her team to do that fairly, however she shouldn't let it ruin her enjoyment of her role entirely. I think as a partner, you can act as a sounding board for her frustrations - possibly what she needs to say that she can't say in the workplace. Remind her though that she isn't the only one experiencing this and that it's not unique to her i.e to not take it personally. |