[jonnathanson]

I totally get that, and I respect that line of thinking. It's a psychological/motivational thing. But if you've got no other options, keep that in mind. You are playing at the table with a weaker hand, and you run the risk that the other side will call your bluff.

At the end of the day, whatever works best for someone works best for him. I would just caution against intentionally backing oneself into a corner. Sometimes we do our best with our backs against the wall, but that doesn't mean we should seek to put ourselves in that position.

[NovemberWest]

There are always other options. I suggest you watch "Kingdom of Heaven" if you have not yet seen it. Painfully bad movie, totally worth watching all the way through one time in order to see the negotiation scene in context.

I have negotiation skills in spades. But I tend to be a doormat. Being under the gun has been extremely uncomfortable but is getting results in ways that simply studying the subject intellectually was not. Getting over some things has been terribly difficult for me.

My situation is complicated and a comment or two on HN won't convey it. If we had more time to talk, we might find we agree more than it seems.

Peace.