[arbitrage]

i saw the same thing happening to me, and i really didn't like it. the best way i found around this was identification and practice.

the first thing is to look at how you think and act. you said, "I hate it". that's a very strong emotion, and a very strong idea. and it indicates you've already become negative. try turning it around ... realize that you've already identified a problem, and now have an opportunity to work on changing it.

once i started doing this, my next reaction was that this is positive thinking bullshit. which it seems like. but i'm using it to change myself, which works ... not effect change in the external world through positive thinking, which doesn't necesarily work all that well.

etc, etc.

if you start softening your words, your thoughts follow (and vice versa). you can regain an objective and thoughtful outlook on life and experiences, instead of short-circuiting your through process by relying on pre-disgested, ready-made thought patterns.