[dirktheman]

First of all, this situation sucks because this person is not just defaming you, but dragging a loved one into his shitty antics. I really feel sorry for you guys! I think the best thing to do is write a short blog post explaining why someone would find shady things about you and your girlfriend. Don’t expose too many details, just a short neutral story like you’ve written here. When people ask you questions directly about your alleged pasts, refer to this blog post. For the rest of it, ignore the badmouthing. It will diminish fast enough once you don’t give this person a reason to continue.

Continue to be awesome, not only is this a much quicker way to rebuild your reputation (although I think you’re exaggerating how much people care about these kind of things), it’s also much, much more rewarding.

Remember: Karma’s a bitch. These people will get what they deserve in the end.

[robertocr]

Thanks for the answer. I think I might write the neutral blog post and redirect people to it instead of explaining every time, thanks for the tip. It's not me in the video, but the editing makes it look like it is. I didn't really do anything wrong... if anything, I only try to help people, even if via misunderstood ways.

My friends are all saying this is nothing (both personally and professionally), but I know people do care about this, especially older / conservative people. If people get to know me, they understand I am very good professionally and also as a person.

I'm doing my best to focus on working, as I always do.