So, basically, everyone that doesn't agree with her is just irrational, deluded, etc. The world horribly bad, oppressing, we're all sinners in need of salvation, etc., etc.
I'm tired of these rants. I'll gladly listen to you describing your experiences, but I don't accept your worldview, and I will not agree to describe myself as “misogynistic” or “racist” (not to mention “asshole”), just because I don't agree with you.
It's not that our current system is perfect, or that it can't be improved. But for every person that feels oppressed like the OP, there's a hundred that don't have to starve to death, ten others who can live and fulfill their dreams, five others who…
It's good to reflect on the fact that our human minds are predisposed towards prejudice and selfishness. Calling people nasty names because of those inborn traits is just silly.
Uh, it is not at all vitriol. You read the thing right? It's about self-discovery and the discomfort we all feel when we find out we're supporting violent or oppressive systems.
The last thing we need is yet another article (albeit a fairly well-written one) about the problems faced in the abstract, with no solutions in sight. So I'm going to propose one thing you can do. Yes, you. If you see someone being an asshole, particularly if they're someone you know already, make them aware of what they're doing and why it's inappropriate. This works just as well for casual sexism as it does 'bully' attitudes in the workplace.
Seriously. Speak up. We as a community have a tendency to be passive-aggressive, talking in hushed tones about how X acted that night, or how we really wish that Y would stop making racist comments on team outings. In the words of a wise man, "Shut up and say something."
How is "speak up" less abstract than "just listen"? They're both good advice. But there are so many issues that you'll have to be abstract to describe them collectively. I think "just listen" is good advice because you have to know what kind of problems there are before you can even recognize someone being an asshole.
"Just listen" can be helpful to identify problems, but here's the issue: we all already know of 99% of the problems! We just don't act on them. Social pressure is a powerful thing, and most of the time that's all it takes to correct issues.
"Speak up" isn't abstract, it's concrete: if you hear someone say something inappropriate, tell them. That's it. Simple as that.
I've seen a bunch of these now and frankly I don't see the point. Maybe we should all become Zen Bhuddist monks and subsist off happy thoughts alone lest we accidentally step on an ant and take a life?
I don't know exactly what needs to be done to fix these problems, but I know rants like this do absolutely nothing. You want to see what might make a difference, look at something like this:
http://www.hackingplay.com/carnegie-mellon-study-on-gender-a...
It's not a question of denial. The argument being put forth is that the tech sector is sexist/racist/whatever-ist, and that therefore anyone who works/is connected with, the tech sector is by association then a sexist/racist/whatever-ist. I reject that assertion. By that same logic everyone over in Syria is a mass murderer, after all, they all live in Syria, and other people who live in Syria are killing lots of people, therefore all Syrians are guilty of murder.
On a related note I don't necessarily even agree with the basic premise of the argument. I'm not entirely convinced that the tech sector is sexist/racist/whatever anymore than the rest of society is. Rather I think the lower representation if women in tech is a symptom of the wider cultural problem and not something that can be laid solely at the feet of the tech industry.
I think society is fucked up too. That doesn't mean tech isn't also fucked up. No one is asking you to take sole responsibility for the gender gap etc. Just pay attention to the times when, by doing exactly the same things everyone around you is doing, you are perpetuating the fucked up system.
Honestly I think the main reason we don't see more women in tech is because of the school system and the media portrayal of women. Women don't go into tech or science because those are "guy professions", at least according to movies/tv shows/magazines etc. Hell, some of the negative stereotypes the media pushes about tech/science are enough to even scare off a lot of the men.
What sexism exists that's connected to tech is usually from either marketing (E.G. booth babes), or associated cultures like the gaming culture (driven sadly by a lot of 12-16 year old males), or sports culture (Think Madden 2013 or whatever the current year is). There is the brogramming phenomena, but I think that's largely blown out of proportion, and something that I'd frankly love to see stamped out anyway (and arguably just an extension of sports/gaming culture).
>You are a sexist, misoyngistic, homophobic, transphobic, classist, racist asshole. Oh, and possibly even a hypocrite.
>Sorry bro.
>Yes, I have slut-shamed, body-policed, name-called, bad-joked, appropriated, derailed, co-opted, silenced, objectified, stereotyped, trivialized, slurred, punished, isolated, insulted, benefited, and stayed silent with the worst of them.
I'm missing the overarching sarcasm, right? Surely the author cannot be blind to her own contradictions. This must be bait.
I think you're misinterpreting something. When she lists all the bad things she's done, she's not saying they're good things. She's admitting she's a hypocrite.
Meh, this is just another diatribe that makes all sexism and racism as sin: a pernicious character flaw that can never be blotted out, but must be constantly atoned for. Ditch the hairshirts, they don't suit you.
This is particularly shitty, because they take systemic problems, like racism, sexism, environmentalism, and make them into personal responsibilities. See here:
No matter how much you atone, systemic sexism will prevail. If you want to change that, CHANGE THE SYSTEM. Introspection is good, but on its own, is just masterbation.
After the last article I asked the author for info on which books I should look at reading to educate myself. So seeing this section in this new article frustrates me so much:
> It’s your job to educate yourself. You know how to fucking Google and find things on the internet and on your Kindle and your iPad and all those other things, so do it. Don’t ask marginalized and oppressed people to do your homework for you.
Surely lowering the friction and leading those who are interested in learning more via some recommendations is a good idea?
It's always important, when reading something like this, to realize how young the person who wrote it was, how emotional they were when they wrote it, and where they're coming from.
Often times people who write this kind of screed are writing more for themselves than for others, even if they don't know it.
Clearly there are other people who are curious who this woman is - her personal site appears to be completely hammered right now - but I don't think this distraction is particularly important except for the people here who are seeking distraction for distraction's sake.
When someone accuses me of being any of those things, I just say "yes" and let them think so. If people want me to be sexist I can be sexist. I can be a women (or MAN!) hater if I want, or if the name-caller wants. Either is fine.
Here's the thing: whenever I'm called names it makes me want to be/continue being those things just because if pisses the person off. It hurts their fragile little feelings that someone has the audacity of not having the exact same opinion as them and they can't digest it. And while they've having a shouting fit or breaking down I'm continuing with my life, now perhaps a little happier that I've pissed another person off just by being me.
Hey, article writer! I'm never visiting neither your blog or this popular (for some reason) "medium.com" domain, nor am I going to stop being myself. Being me has gotten me to where I am and being you has only resulted in you having constant fits that there are people who aren't genetically alike to yourself. You go ahead and break down and I'll just laugh at you while continuing to call you a fat, nigger-loving, liberal, man-hating feminazi.
I'm tired of these rants. I'll gladly listen to you describing your experiences, but I don't accept your worldview, and I will not agree to describe myself as “misogynistic” or “racist” (not to mention “asshole”), just because I don't agree with you.
It's not that our current system is perfect, or that it can't be improved. But for every person that feels oppressed like the OP, there's a hundred that don't have to starve to death, ten others who can live and fulfill their dreams, five others who…
It's good to reflect on the fact that our human minds are predisposed towards prejudice and selfishness. Calling people nasty names because of those inborn traits is just silly.