[silvertonia]

All good points, but #2 stuck out the biggest for me. It's not just the wording, but the fact that the only reason I'd be interested in dating someone is because they're physically attractive.

It makes this look like Facebook Stalking Pro.

Just changing this stance to, "someone you find interesting" or better, "someone you might want to get to know better"-- leave the reason open-ended, because we all have different things we look for in people. As it stands, I'd never use the site because it sounds like your active userbase is full of people I wouldn't want to date.

[peterwwillis]

I disagree. First, how do you think people usually decide to date other than by appearance? Most people in real life do not fill out a form to see if they are mutually compatible before they go out. "Hey, you're cute, I like you, let's go out."

Second, the wording is actually good as "cute/handsome". These are words that have a positive association with image without being sex-driven words, and aren't overly powerful towards seeming like a line.

Also keep in mind it's a mutual interest feature. Only once both people have listed each other as cute/handsome is a person notified, so it shouldn't result in negative behavior.

But you're right - there could be lots of reasons for interest other than attraction. Those can be individual features, like "There's someone who likes your taste in music" or "There's someone that wants to invite you to a FB event". The tool could probably be best served by allowing for a mix of these, so while Phil is attracted to Jackie's book smarts, Jackie is attracted to Phil's interest in social justice.