[oinksoft]

Getting married, particularly when you're the primary earner, does an awful lot for your perspective. You can't be so cavalier as the author when somebody depends on you to put food on the table, and that's usually a good thing (especially in terms of relating to the rest of the world that is wrapped up in family life).

[visakanv]

That it does. It almost immediately made me realize how much of my earlier thinking was narcissistic, romanticized, self-entitled bullshit.

I'm finding this an interesting position to be in now, because I completely relate to OP, but I also... don't. It's like hearing a teenage boy telling you how much he's well and truly in love with a girl he met that afternoon. You don't want to falsely encourage him, but you don't want to cruelly discourage him either... just trying to be helpful in some way, if that's in any way possible. Cause I think I could've used some help then.