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by jseliger 4698 days ago
This was downvoted and yet seems to me a perceptive comment. Unless Pure drastically limits the quantity / quality of men, they aren't going to succeed because overwhelming male response will drive out women.

The developers behind Pure presumably aren't stupid, of course, and know much more about how to solve this problem than I do. The problem most women have is not sex, but finding someone they actually want to have sex with and (who also wants to have sex with them). That's where filtering becomes important.

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I think the "most women" mindset is where things start to go wrong with analyses of sex. I think that there are enough people out there (men and women both) that "large enough" subsets exist to make things like this work.

My personal hypotheses are: 1) the subset of women who want to have casual encounters regularly is small; 2) the subset who want to have casual encounters sometimes is very large; 3) if you can reduce friction and stigma significantly then you can activate a modest size subset of women who want a casual encounter now.

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When I lived in NYC, I found happy casual consensual sex through Nerve / CL / OkCupid on the same day I looked about 50% of the time I was interested (between 5-10 successes and some awkwardness but no failures).

You should publish a how-to guide for women. Really. Some best practices to avoid potential stalkers and maintain anonymity. These two issues are my main reasons for not participating in the online dating environment.

I'm afraid of traveling to somebody's place due to potential hidden cams; thank you very much Mr. Tucker Max. I'm afraid of hosting, because if the guy is a creep, now he's a creep with my address, and with a little digging around, my name, which probably leads to my work. Hotels that I would decide to go to ad-hoc are the best option, but as of now I can't spare hundreds of dollars per encounter. Besides do hotels allow registering with a pseudonym?

So as a woman who might be open to the idea, but has the above concerns, there really is no option for me other than a relationship (as in, vetting the guy myself before any fun) and social contacts (people who've been vetted by my friends).

Oddly LTR dating sites do quite fine despite the fact that the better they are the sooner their users leave.

Men looking for sex drive away women looking for LTRs, that's about it. Women looking for sex having a huge selection just means having their needs met sooner.

You're right in that if you're running a dating site for LTRs NSA men drive away women, but NSA men don't drive away NSA women.

I'm not familiar with these acronyms. LTR? Long-term relationship? NSA?
No Strings Attached?
National Security Agency?
I think schoper is referring to prostitution.