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by mikevm 4698 days ago
By pretending to be something you aren't you risk of trying too hard and looking even creepier.
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Not really. People are blunt, uninterested, and horrible at reading other people. "She killed herself? She was always such a cheerful person!"

Huge part of your self-image is not shared by other people.

You got a point with this "trying too hard" thing. Don't do that. Don't follow people when they don't want you, just react positively when they approach you. Lots of people are looking for listeners. Just listen to them. They will like you. And some other people will like you because those people like you.