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by gedrap 4697 days ago
I get your point and I believe that quite sucks.

There might be a number of reasons why they do that. Maybe it's just a reason they give for rejection while the real reason is somewhat uncomfortable to say. Maybe they are afraid that you will burn out (and that's legitimate concern, take a break!). Maybe someone enthusiastic just gives a better feeling, vibe, something not very conscious. Because while you are with someone energetic, optimistic, you suddenly become like him. When you are with someone exhausted, you might start to feel the same.

I get your pain, I respect your hard work, but I'd suggest to put yourself in their shoes - maybe there's something you haven't noticed? :)

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Oh, yeah. It took me a while to process what they said, because I did put myself in their shoes... Am I really tired looking? Does my team think that? Am I putting off a negative tired vibe, or an excited about the hard work vibe, etc.

At the end of the day, and having talked to my team and family, I decided they just took a thin slice of experience and used it to make it into a negative... perhaps instead of being adult enough to say the real reason they didn't believe in me, the business, etc.