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by gadders 4706 days ago
How to Win Friends and Influence People, although 80 years old and a bit corny in places has a lot of wisdom.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influenc...

Also, when in a debate or argument with someone, focus on your end goal. Which is more important - winning the argument (or saving face) or getting your objective achieved?
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vdaniuk 4706 days ago
No, please do not recommend Carnegie. It is a fine specimen of cargo cult.

Much better is to learn psychology, courses are available free on Coursera, Udacity and EDx.

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gadders 4706 days ago
I don't think it's a cargo cult at all. It gives actionable advice on how to get along with people and not be a douchebag.

You can spend your time doing a psychology course, but I'm not sure that would make you a more affable person.

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mumbi 4706 days ago
Yes, read this book. Very important if you want to learn about people.
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