[DannyBee]

"As I said, after she tried to reason with them, on that list. You know, opposed to copying and pasting lots of flamewars she just came across and blogging about it. "

This doesn't really change my point that it's honestly, nobody else's business what a given community decides to set for it's rules, unless that community is somehow impinging on other people's rights.

Here, it isn't. They keep to themselves. So yes, in some sense, if she can't get people in the community to agree, she should take her ball and go home. Appealing to mass authority in an attempt to generate pressure is not cool.

If i want to form a group of assholes that write software, that's on me. If you want to participate in my group of assholes, that's on you.

Asking random people on G+ to whine at me for being an asshole in that group is just childish.