[jessedhillon]

I think it's because the group in question -- nerds, essentially -- are among the least sexually successful population of males. And, generalizing here, that's because in various ways, they typically don't understand other people in a relatable way. So, owing to not being able to understand women, they get rejected and they can't understand why -- it feels like a black box. This feels unfair, and creates a sense of victimization.

So to tell people who are (maybe understandably) bitter and resentful, who are feeling like rejects and victims, that their behavior is the problem -- well, that just feels spiteful and insulting. From the perspective of the nerds, women are arbitrary and cruel, so fuck them and what they think of us. Further, now that women are becoming integrated into parts of nerd culture, this feels like an encroachment into the territory which was previously able to provide a haven/escape from female rejection.

This, at least, is what my experience has been in talking with others. I don't think I personally ever felt this way, but I also have never identified strongly as a nerd either. I'm definitely generalizing heavily.