[ars]

The way I understood what he wrote is:

"Since people will eventually die, it's better not to grow attached, even more, I should welcome the death since it will inevitably happen, and not only that, the death will actually benefit me."

> You're stomping all over his experience with a friend's suicide: you _know_ that, right?

It's one thing to process death and grieving by looking for the good in it.

It's another to tell people it's a good thing, and that life is suffering so welcome death - and your death will help other people.

It's like he's telling people "don't bother living", there's no point to it.

[hobs]

There is no point to life but life itself.

[Helianthus]

Let's say you're right. Does that change the fact that you're telling him how to grieve?

[ars]

Is that really so bad to do that?

After all he was told by his monastery how to grieve, and he's telling everyone else here how to grieve (although he did apologize if his views bothered someone).

If you simply relate what you are doing OK, but once you want people to follow your views you must also be willing to accept some opinions back, and it's OK if you disagree. (And obviously actually changing is entirely the choice of the person.)

Plus, keep in mind that he is hardly the only person reading this.

But, all that said, and reading your reply https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5896351 I do get your point about what I am doing. It's just I VERY strongly disagree with what he said, and I couldn't just leave it unremarked.

[Helianthus]

A bit late to say this, but: fair enough. Though I do not think it fair to say his monastery "told him" how to grieve; active learning is not being ordered, and in general is quite the opposite.