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In that example, the author makes his own fallacy. Apparently the speaker's experiences are the only valid ones, and the responder has no right to share his experience - which some of his "I hope it should be clear that none of these are appropriate responses" are doing.

Some of his examples are condescending, which is the basis of what he's trying to get at, others are only condescending if you wilfully choose to take them that way. The problem isn't in pointing out the fallacy, it's with the tone of the commentary. The simple fact that you name a fallacy while exposing it does not mean you're a lazy debater.