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by laurenia
4787 days ago
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Just because it's a phenomenon you don't have experience doesn't make it trivial. I would argue that there's a link between these teenage girls and our culture's depiction of the romantic side of 'bad boys.' I know far too many young women who stay in abusive or worthless relationships because they think they can fix the guy, or that deep inside the guy is just misunderstood. Where does that instinct come from? Conversely, think about how easy it is to write someone off because he or she looks like a low-life. Why do we always try to understand the motivations of attractive and female killers, while other segments of society are ignored entirely? Obama's good-looking, but people don't admire him because of his policy on drones. We don't have videos of him launching a drone strike and melting away into the crowd. The parent raises a good point, but it's not exactly relevant to this discussion. |
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Just because I think it's trivial doesn't mean I don't experience it.. but point taken, it's not trivial. Seeing that little comment about Obama grayed out without any reply annoyed me, I flew off the handle there sorry.
I know far too many young women who stay in abusive or worthless relationships because they think they can fix the guy, or that deep inside the guy is just misunderstood. Where does that instinct come from?
I guess knowing what you want can matter more than what exactly you want, at least to people who themselves are even weaker and easily impressed. Also, someone who is passionate about random or even evil stuff will often be more fascinating than someone who is lukewarm or cowardly about saving the world, I think that much is obvious.
Also, for every female who is into a serial killer, a thousand are into Justin Bieber. So I'm not even sure there is such an "instinct". There may be broken females who had shitty fathers, though, and to those, the abuse they know might be preferable to the liberty and decision making they never learned. But that's just armchair psychology, I don't really know. But oh boy did I ponder this, I had my fair share of being treated like a doormat for being friendly, as well as sexual offers for being narcissistic - I don't understand it, either. I kinda paused caring about it, maybe it will come to me in a dream. (or a HN reply ^^)
Obama's good-looking, but people don't admire him because of his policy on drones.
Well, before we have even the faintest idea how this stuff works and is or isn't connected, who is to say? Does it matter what he officially says? If this stuff is, for example, "genes speaking to genes" ("Why do lionesses like lions who kill the children they had with another male? Why wouldn't we find something similar in humans, if not something way more advanced?"), wouldn't it matter way more what he does? I often wondered this about Hitler, if some people didn't actually (at least subconsciously) notice and agree to his hate and nihilism, even though they picked up his rhetoric and euphemisms. Are people really that easily misled? Or are they just rationalizing?
We don't have videos of him launching a drone strike and melting away into the crowd.
Exactly. That's how much more slick he is; not how much less violent. In the same way, a mafia boss might be more attractive than a thug on the payroll of the same mafia boss, even though physically much weaker, and more refined in behaviour.