[shardling]

Sorry, but I can't help but remember encountering people who told stories much like yours, only to find on closer examination that they were incredibly, deeply in the wrong.

Since you don't go into any actual details about what set the situation off, it makes it really hard for me to take your anecdote too seriously.

[toasterlovin]

If you're lacking details, why not ask questions?

[shardling]

I'd like to think my comment was an invitation to provide details if possible. Asking specific questions is hard when the situation described is so vague. :)

[jscheel]

Honestly, I'm not interested in providing details. The parties involved have already kissed and made up (for the most part), and it serves nothing for me to prove myself on HN. Suffice to say, I took, and still take, the position that we each have a finite amount of political capital and goodwill that we can spend, and that it is more advantageous for everyone to spend it on building instead of destroying. There will always be differences of opinion on what is building vs. destroying, though, and there will always be room for poor communication to confuse the matter for all parties involved. Especially in the tech community, as I'm sure you can imagine :)

[toasterlovin]

> I'd like to think my comment was an invitation to provide details if possible.

Hmmmm, it seems to me that asking a question would be an invitation to provide details. Making a statement about how other individuals in similar situations have been deeply wrong comes across, to me, as an invitation to defensiveness and conflict.

Why not ask simply, "Can you provide more details?"

[jscheel]

Likewise.

[Kudzu_Bob]

Sorry, but I can't help but remember encountering people who made comments much like yours, only to find on closer examination that they were incredibly, deeply in the wrong.

Since you don't go into any actual details about the basis of your comment, it makes it really hard for me to take your remembrances too seriously.

[shardling]

What a boring, round about way to say something.

[Kudzu_Bob]

Whoa! Déjà vu!