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by speeder 4811 days ago
Once I dated a former model for about 6 months.

She was one of those nordic women with big bones, literally, when she was a model you could see easily several of her bones and she was more or less masculine.

When I dated her, she was overweight by her standards (but had a perfectly normal weight actually, she was underweight when she was a model), this made her "bonyness" get bit hidden and her body got natural feminine curves, also her face was very beautiful (you ever saw a ugly model?).

Yet, I remember how odd to me it sounded when she wanted to have sex with me (I was not much sure about it, I was virgin) but with lights off. I was like: "Alright, you want to convince me to have sex, but with lights off?" Then she claimed that she was too fat and bony and she looked like a transexual...

I was kinda shocked... But over time this did not really go away, it would not matter how much I would reassure her, or how much other men looked at me with obvious envy, or how beautiful she really was, she always for one reason or another thought herself ugly. This is one of the reasons the relationship fell apart... But I never forget it, I dated a woman that was rich, powerful and a model, but she kept thinking herself weak and ugly (specially, fat with protuding bones... So yes, there are people that would describe themselves like that)

2 comments

In the particular case of models, that can be way worse, as it is a very competitive field where you're constantly compared and measured against other (obviously gorgeous) models.

I imagine that being a model put your self-esteem under a huge presure.

I think most people find models unattractive. Most models are gaubf skeletons (human clothes hangers) with creepy facial expressions for the catwalk, and ridiculous clothes.

Movie stars, rock stars/dancers, very attractive. Models, not really.

Actually, I agree with you.

This is why when I dated her, she was a former model, and "overweight" (by her standards).

If she was still a model, I would pass... I am not into stick bags.

You may be confusing high fashion models, a subset of the modelling industry, with modelling in general.

Not every model is a skeleton wearing over-stylized clothes on a runway.

In fact, this might blow your mind: the majority of models aren't that.