[sequoia]

        +-------------------------------------------------------+
	|                  SECURITY WARNING!                    |
	|  You are attempting to walk down a dark alley,        |
	|  which could be dangerous.  Only walk down            |
	|  dark alleys you are familiar with and trust.         |
	|  By walking down this alley you assume responsibility |
	|  for the attendant risks.                             |
	|                                                       |
	|  Do you still wish to walk down the dark alley?       |
	|  [x] Yes         [ ] Cancel                           |
	+-------------------------------------------------------+  

Perhaps a better phrasing that "your own fault" is "it was 100% in his power to prevent this from happening. He is responsible for the fact that it happened."

[mikeash]

Fault and blame is not zero-sum, a point many people seem to miss. Realizing that the victim has some (and he certainly does here, and in many other cases) does not in any way reduce what attaches to the perpetrator.