| I think some of the confusion in this whole thread would go away if people submitted their takes on where ( for them ) courtesy ends and firmness or assertiveness or strictness in demeanor towards others begins. Where exactly are they willing to end their train of courteous acts and begin being very stiff in their gives and takes with society. We tend to hold important / formidable / consequential people higher in regard than nice / courteous / generous people. It is very very rare that one finds those both diametrical qualities in the same person. A person is either a degree more assertive than he or she is courteous. Or alternately a degree less assertive.
Never the same degree in both. I'll go as far as to say that there can be no one like that. That degree makes all the difference in how he or she is perceived and weighed. As they say, some people are admired and liked and others are feared and viewed at, in awe. I will leave it to you to decide which of the two is more durable and desirable. |