I get what you're saying, but I will admit that I am respectful (not necessarily nice, but generally respectful) to people exactly because of what they can do for me - in my case, I want them be be respectful back to me. In the example I wrote about, I was pleasantly surprised there was a bonus to being nice/respectful and that experience has stuck with me, but that wasn't what I was looking for.
I treat people they way I would like them to treat me, so yes, I am looking for them to do something for me. Selfish? Perhaps, but it makes for pleasant interactions and I see that as a win.
I agree - I liked the parent post up until the last paragraph. If one were to ignore the last paragraph and form their own conclusion, I think they would walk away with a nicer message.
I get what you're saying, but I will admit that I am respectful (not necessarily nice, but generally respectful) to people exactly because of what they can do for me - in my case, I want them be be respectful back to me. In the example I wrote about, I was pleasantly surprised there was a bonus to being nice/respectful and that experience has stuck with me, but that wasn't what I was looking for.
I treat people they way I would like them to treat me, so yes, I am looking for them to do something for me. Selfish? Perhaps, but it makes for pleasant interactions and I see that as a win.