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by Alterlife 4813 days ago
I've seen plenty of well intended articles on this topic... but what's being addressed are the symptoms, not the problem.

When you're in a conversation, all you have to do is force yourself to believe that the person you're speaking with could have a viewpoint worth considering.

Tell yourself in your head: Maybe he has a point. Let's hear him out. Good listening automatically follows.

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I'd also say that the other side of this is neglected, namely how to get others to listen better to you.

Those who have issues listening well are probably less likely to be looking out for advice on how to do so, so what can we do when we find ourselves needing to communicate with them?

This is anecdotal and not even carefully collected, but I feel like I tend to listen more attentively when I feel like I am being listened to myself. So being a better listener may automatically do a lot of good at getting people to listen to you.
I agree completely!
Sometimes people are bad at listening when they believe the speaker has a great point. That's what excites the listener to race ahead to responses. I think it's easier said than done to be patient in those situations.