| Learning to play an instrument is fine. Learning to play an instrument in order to "change the world" and become the #1 rock star is worrying. There are other factors involved, lots of people want to be rock stars, so there is a lot of competition, and many of them are very mean people who don't fight fair. There are lots of people who wanted to become rock stars but didn't make it or aren't smart enough, and they will be jealous and try and stop you. They don't care how hard you are trying. They will even try to steal it if you succeed. You CAN do it, but it will probably take ten or twenty years or more and be much, much, much harder than you think. You will eventually have to become very obsessed with programming and spend 12 hours every day doing it, just like a rock star or basketball star spends all day practicing. You won't have any friends or girlfriend or normal life. If you don't succeed, you will become mean too, and have no choice but to work for somebody else like a slave, even though you worked so hard. That's probably what your parents worry about. It's up to you. Are you the smartest? Are you willing to work the hardest, harder than anybody, for 20 years? Are you willing to give up your entire future? That's what it will take to "change the world," and in reality, the world won't change very much no matter what you do.
Even Steve Jobs only really gave people new cellphones, and he spent his whole life trying that hard, and died very young because of it. |
It is easy to "change the world". Next time you're walking on the sidewalk, and see a piece of trash, stoop and pick it up. Presto: you've made the world a better place.
The question is how much, but certainly saying that OP "won't have any friends or girlfriend or normal life" IS COMPLETELY WRONG. Most very successful people I know have satisfying personal lives.
I dissent from the parent. I would suggest you not ask yourself "Are you willing to work harder than anybody, for 20 years?", or indeed to compare yourself to others at all. The question I would invite you to ask yourself, which it sounds like you are doing already, is "What is something interesting and helpful I could learn?"
Good luck to you!